This week is super busy, but I took a selfie break because it’s fall, and fall means pretty lipstick. I hope your week is less stressful than mine! :) #whatsthis #autumn #maccaptivate #itsmagical #havetogowriteapapernow

This week is super busy, but I took a selfie break because it’s fall, and fall means pretty lipstick. I hope your week is less stressful than mine! :) #whatsthis #autumn #maccaptivate #itsmagical #havetogowriteapapernow

oatmeal:

Read the rest of the comic here:  Christopher Columbus was awful (but this other guy was not)  

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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vaderthecat:

royaldisneyprincess

reblog if you ARE PANSEXUAL, support PANSEXUALS, or are a TINY SLUG who BREATHES FIRE

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spoopay:

alaskaroths:

Let’s talk about these double standards here.

Miley Cyrus and Nick Jonas. Both former disney stars. Both adults now. Both trying to express their real selves and get out of their disney phases.

When Miley started the transition, she got so much hate. Every celebrity news site was calling her a whore, saying how “inappropriate” it was for the former Hannah Montana star to be showing off her body in such a way, and even making fun of and shaming her body type. 

When Nick Jonas recently released these photos of himself grabbing his fucking dick, he got such a positive response. "Nick Jonas Grabs His Junk, Shows Off His Abs and Happy Trail in New Flaunt Photos" Everyone’s calling him “eye-candy”, and encouraging him. No one’s calling him a slut. No one’s calling him a whore. No one’s saying he’s a “bad role model”. 

I mean, just look at these two headlines and tell me this is fair treatment.

I’m so beyond done with this shit.

FUCKING HELL

shesaidasoul:

queerpoc:

cleolinda:

cinematicnomad:

apparently e.l. james called former child star mara wilson (matilda) a “sad f**k” for critiquing the 50shades books a while ago and now there’s a feud. i love it.

Reason number 93845792384729384 to love Mara Wilson.  You go, girl!

doctaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa:

BABY DEER’S FIRST STEPS (⊙‿⊙✿)

carriehopefletcher:

goldstarprivilege:

appropriately-inappropriate:

hellomissmayhem:

gaywitchesforabortions:

tehbewilderness:

the-fly-agaric:

bajo-el-mar:

Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.

what book is this?

This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.

I’m so glad I’m seeing more and more Lundy Bancroft quotes on my dash because this book CHANGES THE LIVES OF ABUSE VICTIMS.The programs run for rehabilitating abusive men through the courts? Bancroft DESIGNED THEM. His programs are replicated ALL OVER THE WORLD.He literally wrote THE book on abuser rehabilitation.

Here’s a link to a pdf copy. If you haven’t read this book yet, read this book.

Can we talk about how it seems like the entirety of the book is online on PDF, this making it accessible to anyone with an internet connection?
That is how we stop abuse.
We enable everyone to know what it looks like, so that when it happens, they can shut it down.

Arm yrself with knowledge!

Excuse the language on the notes guys but it’s so important everyone read this! Blew my mind! 

carriehopefletcher:

goldstarprivilege:

appropriately-inappropriate:

hellomissmayhem:

gaywitchesforabortions:

tehbewilderness:

the-fly-agaric:

bajo-el-mar:

Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.

what book is this?

This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.

I’m so glad I’m seeing more and more Lundy Bancroft quotes on my dash because this book CHANGES THE LIVES OF ABUSE VICTIMS.

The programs run for rehabilitating abusive men through the courts? Bancroft DESIGNED THEM. His programs are replicated ALL OVER THE WORLD.
He literally wrote THE book on abuser rehabilitation.

Here’s a link to a pdf copy. If you haven’t read this book yet, read this book.

Can we talk about how it seems like the entirety of the book is online on PDF, this making it accessible to anyone with an internet connection?

That is how we stop abuse.

We enable everyone to know what it looks like, so that when it happens, they can shut it down.

Arm yrself with knowledge!

Excuse the language on the notes guys but it’s so important everyone read this! Blew my mind! 

Game of Thrones: A very serious TV show about bloody battles and people dying at weddings

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my-oddly-drawn-circus:

robokunt:

strugglingtobeheard:

face-down-asgard-up:

Women are standing face to face with cops, staring them down and telling them to stop killing them, why do they wanna shoot kids, etc.

Remember these women. They are so brave.

Black women

Black. Women.

Seriously. We all need to recognize that black people face way more danger standing up to the cops than white people. 

etphoneboner:

cute-pubes:

What’s difficult to digest is this “praise” of all things black - from cornrows and large booties to acrylic nails, door-knocker earrings, and tribal fabrics - only becomes “chic,” “trendy,” and “epic” when worn by white women. When these same cultural markers are on black women, they are “ghetto,” “urban,” and “ratchet” - meaning, unpretty.
"It’s offensive," said Doreen E. Loury, director of Pan-African studies at Arcadia University. "The natural beauty of black women that has been historically demonized and classified as unattractive, is now the runway’s hottest new swag. And it’s not even being celebrated on black bodies."
Read more here

and words like “ghetto”, “rachet”, and “thug” take on more “funny”, positive meanings when applied to white people. A white thug is being funny/ironic, while a black thug gets shot by police.

etphoneboner:

cute-pubes:

What’s difficult to digest is this “praise” of all things black - from cornrows and large booties to acrylic nails, door-knocker earrings, and tribal fabrics - only becomes “chic,” “trendy,” and “epic” when worn by white women. When these same cultural markers are on black women, they are “ghetto,” “urban,” and “ratchet” - meaning, unpretty.

"It’s offensive," said Doreen E. Loury, director of Pan-African studies at Arcadia University. "The natural beauty of black women that has been historically demonized and classified as unattractive, is now the runway’s hottest new swag. And it’s not even being celebrated on black bodies."

Read more here

and words like “ghetto”, “rachet”, and “thug” take on more “funny”, positive meanings when applied to white people. A white thug is being funny/ironic, while a black thug gets shot by police.

You might want to be suited up for this.

(Source: visionsgirl)